Respect has to be earned. This we know. Yes. True. Some situations are not that easy. Very cloudy. Gray. Even painful. Painful to rehearse, relive, revisit. Absolutely. It is VERY difficult when she (as far as what he told you) was/is this, that, and the other. 

There comes a time when YOU have to make a decision to soar as an eagle ABOVE chickens. PERIOD. 

Challenge yourself to look at the bigger picture. THE BIG PICTURE. The children. Your relationship with them. Not that FAKE “act right only when” your husband/boyfriend/man/crush/potential Boo OR sidepiece is around. Yep. That’s real. Not that fake “trying to impress his family and friends, get in good with his mom and sisters” foolishness.

You gotta…THINK

Think Long term. The children have feelings. They grow up. They remember. Just like you do/did. When you’re so easily pulled into Team Petty and even comparing yourself as better…and running your mouth…yeah. Stop. 

There are definitely acts too horrific to even mention and “respect” is the LAST thing on your mind. UNDERSTOOD!!! But this every day conversation about her and undermining her position as the one who gave birth to the child/children? Stalking her and her page like she’s YOUR man? You don’t know what the child sees/hears/overhears and will remember. Just food for thought. Real talk. At the end of the day, that’s still the child’s mother. What you say (and do) says MORE about you than you realize. Trust. 

Know your place. @authenticiteespeaks 

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2 thoughts on “THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN | Relationships

  1. Right on! At some point almost all children will side with “mom” if a decision is demanded. It sometimes seem like the more dysfunctional mom is, the more the children want to protect her. A wise post, dear.

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  2. Absolutely! I’ve never been in this situation, but I can certainly empathize with how I would want to be treated if I was the mother. Just goes back to that old saying, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

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